Put on your red shoes
and dance the blues
jordanmuzquizcoaching@gmail.com
I’m Jordan, a coach, counseling master’s student, and therapist-trainee in San Francisco. Movement practices and love of play have helped me build alliance with my body, mind, and ethereal bard.
I fought my way back to my inner abandoned creative and wrote songs, cooked my way through harmful eating patterns and can now make a delightful mapo tofu, became dance parters with my demons (Narcissism can be a helpful lead), and emptied my heart of resentment, of knowing anything to re-member the broken limbs of my family tree.
I want to share what I’ve learned about body wisdom, creative courage, and emotional spontaneity in the darkest corners.
I want to help you attune, create, and play.
Jordan Muzquiz
Coach and recovering creative
My three pillars
Attune with your body
Bring awareness to your body, listen for its wisdom, move without judgement, connect mind and body.
Honor your creative
Honor your creative, invite your critic to rest, follow the breadcrumbs back to what you loved doing as a child, take yourself on artist dates, start creating now.
Embrace spontaneity
Invite the trickster, the fool, don’t take yourself so seriously, don’t take critiques so personally.
Can you play with your shadows or are they playing you?
What I do
Reconnect with your body:
You may be feeling disconnected from your body and stuck in your head. This may lead to reliance on food, alcohol, and even busyness with work and side projects as a form of dissociation or distraction. Together, we can explore practices to help you slow down, listen to your body, and rediscover the joy of being more present with your body and its wisdom.
Deepen emotional intimacy:
If you're craving deeper connections with yourself and others, I'm here to support you. You may retreat into your head when difficult emotions emerge and this could be causing issues in your connection with others. Together, we'll explore what it means to truly connect with your heart, and generate greater emotional awareness and intimacy in your relationships.
Embrace spontaneity:
Are you stuck in old patterns? Burnt out and irritable? Are you tired of feeling so emotionally sensitive to criticism? Do you get embarrassed easily? Are you more emotionally reactive than you’d like to be? Let's invite more playfulness and flexibility into your life. Through tailored exercises and practices, we’ll build up a capacity to respond to life’s life's twists and turns with more ease and joy.
Honor your creative:
Do you have a creative project you’ve been meaning to get to but keep saying you don’t have the time? Do you suspect that your current sadness, irritability, jealously is because you are neglecting this thing. Do you feel guilty or like you’re not good enough when you do get around to it. Together we will make space for these voices and explore them. I’ll also give you tools to work through resistance on a daily basis.
What I will not do
A teacher of mine said that conflict is the attempt at the annihilation of difference.
We all have parts of ourselves that may be acting in ways that do not serve our best interest. We may want to overcome them or get to the otherside or leap out from their shadows and into the light. I understand this desire and honor it. I also want to give those parts of you that are clammoring for attention, their time to be heard as well. My number one tool for this is curiosity.
You have goals you want to achieve. You have feelings and behaviors that you want to change. Coaches are supposed to help get you from point A to point B. That is what we promise. And I believe that without radical acceptance and sincere curiosity of your entire being, we are annhiliating necessary and beautiful parts of the cosmic fabric and you.
Anxiety serves a purpose, depression serves a purpose, rage serves a purpose, abandonment of body serves a purpose. Where we may get into trouble when these parts run the show, when we are not in communication and relationship with them.
First, I get curious about these parts. We may decide that we need to confront them and create boundaries, healthier meeting places between you and these parts. What I will not do is promise to elimniate this part, to be in conflict with it, to annihilate it and push you into what I beleive is the light. It is arrogant to presume I know what light is for you.
My promise
I will not come into our first session with an agenda. I will not promise that you will harness the power of anything, I will not push you in the direction of your fullest potential…
I will do my best to empty myself, to practice knowing nothing of nothing, and enter our meeting with calm yet alive curiosity.
What I will do is listen like my life depends on it. Because I believe it does.
We are connected and I feel that your suffering is yours alone and it is wholly mine. We are separate beings, with separate lives and I can never fully know your specific pain, and we are connected.
Often, in the beginning of a session, there will be a dumping of thoughts and emotions. In this initial flood clients will sometimes say, “sorry I’m getting off topic” or “ugh, this is word vomit” or “I forgot my point.” I don’t need a succinct topic, vomit is a biological miracle, and you are a human not a slide deck.
During this flood, I listen and feel for moments, words, shifts in energy that are notable. We are excavating and listening for themes, the thing that wants to emerge. I say we, because we co-create this space. I am not the authority.